What do boys’ parents need to know if they are expecting a daughter? Are you curious to know the reason behind the stereotypical behaviour you have noticed recently in your child?Depending on the perspective, your answers can be simple, obvious, complicated, nonexistent, or severely ‘gender normative’ which suggests that all girls will do some things as well, and all boys have certain traits.But it has turned out that these gender differences are not much significant – although there are some which start when the child is in the mother’s womb and then continues throughout childhood.According to anatomy, sexual differences among girls and boys can be quite obvious. However, as far as brain development is concerned, the differences between the sexes are minimal.By this, we mean development and behaviour are greatly influenced by different experiences in life than gender. For your little one to attain full potential, he or she requires loads of encouragement, along with attention from the very beginning.In this article, you will learn about how much and where the role of gender is instrumental in your child’s development.
- Toys Preference
Babies do not discriminate between ‘boys’ and ‘girls’ playthings. It is backed by many studies (and several parents already know) that a lot of baby boys like playing with dolls. So it is feasible to believe that boys prefer cars and girls prefer tea sets as society teaches them to.Although gender-specific promotion along with peer pressure at preschool may impact your child’s taste among toys, there is sufficient evidence that supports there is something innate related to preferences for particular playthings as well that begins around the first year.In reality, girls exposed to more than average sex hormones levels in the mother’s womb, which include testosterone as well, showed higher than average interest among trucks and cars.Also, in a study that involved monkeys, it was observed that male primates picked wheeled playthings over plush playthings, while female primates liked both.Now, what does it mean for human beings? It can be expected from your baby girl to be a little more open compared to her brother regarding the playthings – generally beginning around kindergarten.You can widen your baby boy’s horizon for toys by providing him with all kinds of toys rather than opting for stereotypical stuff.
- Spatial Ability
One of the reasons behind boys outscoring girls over the SAT’s math portion can be their advantage of spatial ability or the capability of solving problems that involve relationships among objects, size, and distance.Studies reveal that boys of 3–5 months age can envision how the object would appear if rotated compared to same-age girls who cannot.To promote spatial ability in your girls, you can give her building blocks and play ball activities with her. As she gets old enough, you can introduce her to games that concentrate on targeting things.
- Comprehending Emotions
Females have more ability to get in tune with people’s emotions. Researchers have concluded after reviewing more than 100 studies that even during infancy, girls tend to be better at understanding others’ feelings through facial expressions.The results of another study revealed that baby girls rather prefer looking at faces as compared to mobiles, and the opposite is correct for boys.Although the skill of face-reading starts at birth, nurture, and nature both plays the role – the disparity in ability among grown-up women and men is more noticeable as it occurs in younger ones.What is the reason behind this difference? Experts believe that this is because females are instructed to convey their feelings; on the other hand, boys are taught to absorb their emotions.Today all mothers everywhere know that baby boys are not less sensitive. You should teach your baby boy the appropriate words to express his feelings when you talk with him, such as, “You are upset because you cannot reach the toy.”
- Physical Activity
In any playground, you are bound to observe more boys playing, jumping, and running. This disparity in physical activeness may begin in the mother’s womb.Canadian researchers have concluded after reviewing many previous studies that during infancy. Baby boys tend to be more wiggle worms compared to baby girls such as they wriggle more while changing, get more restless in a stroller, and also crawl for longer distances. Though, you might not observe the differences in your baby boy and baby girl, as per scientists. While compared to the typical girl, boys, on average, do not move about much more, but the most energetic children are always usually boys, and girls are the least energetic.To make your children more physically active involve both sexes in a lot of sporty playtimes – from playing chase in the playground to dancing indoors.
- Potty Training
Baby girls tend to ditch their nappies faster than baby boys – sometimes much quicker. Many baby girls begin potty training around 22–30 months, while baby boys tend to take 3 months‑1 years longer than baby girls.On average, girls learn to pee all alone by the age of 33 months, which is a huge milestone. However, the boys can take until 37 months to reach there.The main difference between boys and girls is sitting still to poop in the toilet for five minutes, which girls on average can do till they are 3 and ¼ years old, however, boys can take roughly around 5 months longer, for learning this skill.If your toddler boy doesn’t get used to toilet training till later, you can bring the potty out near his 2nd birthday and let him enjoy it. Who knows this might inspire your tot for beating the statistics.
According to research, boys tend to be more aggressive compared to girls, surprisingly before the age of two.Scientists believe that prenatal testosterone plays a significant role in this, and boys are playing subconsciously at something which they are statistically more expected to do during adulthood compared to girls, like getting involved in physical confrontations.However, this does not mean that girls are angels. Toddler girls bite, hit, and kick thrice more compared with either gender till the time children go to grade school as by then the two sexes are socialized enough, so they make use of their words instead of their fists.You should teach your little girls and boys their limits and be firm to enforce the ‘no-hit’ rule.
Many parents share the opinion about the boys that they attain gross-motor milestones such as sitting up, cruising, crawling, and walking before girls, but some pediatricians firmly believe the opposite. However, both groups are wrong.It is backed by studies after studies that there occur no considerable differences among girls and boys as far as the development of gross motor skills is concerned.Both the sexes usually begin to walk sometime around 9 and sixteen months: still, a study on parental expectations noted that mothers of eleven-month-old babies continuously overestimated their baby boys’ physical abilities and underestimated their baby girls’.These expectations for boys might be due to their physical size as boys are usually taller and heavier compared to girls until around 6 months.What you can do to promote walking in your infant is to focus on building up your tot’s muscles by making him or her do much tummy time during their early months. You should also ensure that your baby does not spend a lot of time in a car seat, play yard, or stroller.
Talking is a milestone that both boys and girls achieve consistently at not the same time. Girls, on average, begin talking around a month before than boys, sometimes around the beginning half of age two.British researchers noted that baby girls had considerably greater vocabularies compared to boys earliest at 18 months and two years.However, experts believe that gender only explains 3% of disparities in the verbal skills of toddlers. Still, the kid’s subjection to language, along with their environment, accounts for not less than 50% of disparities.The role of parents in attaining this milestone can be to read and talk to their little ones more often irrespective of their gender.
Last but not least!
By the end, we can conclude there occur no big differences among raising boys versus girls. Conventionally what boys enjoy and prefer are also enjoyed and preferred by girls, plus vice versa.Your job as a parent is to look for your children’s strengths and work on them, also recognizing their flaws and helping them. It is to defend them from societal pressure, which is to teach them the proper way to act and allow them to do things that make them happy.It is also about keeping alive the enthusiasm and excitements of childhood in their hearts until they can be before the pressures of life dim them out.Remember, you have to raise individuals, not the genders. As a parent, your role is to approach each child differently irrespective of their gender because they have their character and possess their likes, dislikes, strengths, and weaknesses.There is no such thing as a perfect parent. So just be a real one. – SUEATKINS